I think the two of you are arguing over nothing; it's obvious that you both have a different point of view when it comes to this, and that's ok. I also think the best point of view to have is the one that Bill does.... as in, 'I would never do anything like that, but if it floats your boat, then so be it'. That's called tolerance, and having a respect for others viewpoints; we really need more of that in the world.
As for open relationships, I have a bit of a second-hand perspective on this, as my parents are (or were) swingers; they've been married for 25+ years and still have a great relationship, so I know it can work under the right circumstances. My own perspective on this is that, since I know where to look, I can have pussy delivered to my front door like Chinese food. And once you've banged so many gorgeous 18-21 year-olds, it's like having access to all the online porn you can possibly consume in one lifetime; it's great at first, but gets boring after awhile.
So, I think I'd be content with just one person, unless something happens and she is no longer able to put out. In that case, I wouldn't want to be confined to oral sex and my right hand for the rest of my life. And I wouldn't expect her to go without either. IMHO, it's rather selfish to expect your partner to be celibate forever when you're not able to perform anymore. So, before I ever get married, I think I'd have this talk with her first to make sure we were both on the same page
The idea behind tolerance is not that you have to like, or even attempt to understand somebody else's lifestyle choices, but that you have enough respect for others that you're willing to let them do their own thing, and (hopefully) they'll leave you alone so that you can also do yours. Anybody who preaches tolerance while themselves are unwilling to practice it is a hypocrite.
Last edited by WorknMan; 04-03-2011 at 06:52 PM.